I worked at a hunter/jumper barn for a very long time and handled lots of horses. One would be boarded for a while to prep for a show and then go home until his owner went to college and he moved in permanently. My issue with him was cleaning his stall. Getting him to stand in front of his feeder and then do a turn on the forehand or just move forward or back so I could clean under him was a concept that could not soak into his qh mind! New Arabians could get it in just a few days. I put a halter and chain, or not, on him so that I could control his response to my signals so he always made the correct choice, heaven forbid that i did anything to correct him (no he had not been abused) and then praised him. I swear it was like talking to a rock. Hundreds of horses got it but not him! But then I started taking lessons for a while to fix some position issues and guess who I got stuck riding? I am not sure how much of it was the grooming or the riding (he was very consistant, unlike my gelding) but my opinion of him changed some and I felt some affection that I had not felt for him because he frustrated me so much. I lost it again when I was no longer riding him. Not helped when a new horse would come in and would stand where told and would move over just by hooking my hand around their hip and press and they would step right over but he just could not get it. I never expected my feelings to change so strongly even if temporarily. Usually I liked them on the ground and then would be disappointed when they turned out to not be as nice.
Good point, Angie! I suppose it can work both ways - if a horse is great to ride, the on-the-ground quirks are somehow a bit more tolerable.
I'm a super novice. Like just doing ground work with horses at this point novice but I would like to say I love working with horses that have a variety of personalities. At first, he fear of a 1500 lb horse stamping and screaming at you was scary but you get used to them and they learn to deal with you. I agree that a more cuddly horse makes it easier for me to want to work with them and eventually, ride them!!