Hi I read your tip about "soft reins" and wish to ask you the following : I ride english and my new coach tells me to hold my reins tightly so as to feel (each moment) that I'm carrying something that weighs 1,5 kilo on each of my hands. My former coach though never asked me to do that and I have always held the reins with "a bit of air" ... The problem is that when I tried to hold my reins tightly with other horses too, some of them considered it as if I was trying to make them stop, which eventually they did.. Could this be happening because not all horses have the same instruction? PS my next lesson is on Tuesday so until then any tips would be welcome Thanks a lot in advance.